ALL HUMAN BEINGS LOVE TO SUFFER
One of the greatest competitions between human beings is about who has suffered the most:
1. I have suffered more than you have;
2. I have suffered more than anyone ever has;
3. You'll never know how much I've suffered, but you could at least try;
4. Let me tell you the extend of my suffering (you'll never believe it);
5. My childhood was total suffering, my wife doesn't understand me, I'm too sensitive, my trouble is I'm too truthful. Etc.
The reason people love to suffer is because it makes them right.
The reason people love to suffer is because it proves how deeply they feel; what profound caverns of emotions exist beneath that brave, smiling surface!
People fight hard to prove the extent of their suffering. They feel no one is listening. (And, most of the time, they're right. We human beings are incredibly self-absorbed.)
In making the competitive choices for any scene, an actor must always keep in mind how much we all suffer and how hard it is to prove.
Study LUV, Murray Schisgal's very funny play, which has the truest scences of competitive suffering. Note particularly the section on the bridge where Ellen and Milt (or is it Harry?) compete over who had the most tragic childhood. "I was raped by two boys on Parsons Boulevard... I was raised by an uncle who was an alcoholic...I never got any presents on my birthday." The extremities presented may seem farcical, but they are also real. Compete. If you don't, you'll suffer alone. What's the good of suffering if no one else knows?
- excerpt from AUDITION, written by casting director Michael Shurtleff